In this lesson, we will focus on how our need for nurturing affects our weight.
We know that weight gain results from a number of reasons, food is just one of them. Whether it is emotional eating or lack of exercise or plain heredity that seems to be causing your weight gain, the underlying reason is the same – attachment. You read about why attachment is the single most important reason for excess weight.
What if such an attachment was formed when we were infants? Let me explain.
Babies cry for all kinds of reasons – they have a stomachache, they are itching somewhere, they are hungry or they might be scared. But once a baby’s stomach is suitably full, she calms down and may even sleep off. Pacifying a cranky infant with a bottle of warm milk makes quick work of calming her down. But it may actually create an ingrained response in her to turn to food in times of anxiety or stress when she grows up.
As you grew a little older, you might have been rewarded with candy for being a good kid. As you grew even older, it became thrilling to experiment with all kinds of junk food, overeating and impulsive behaviour. What was once play has now become second nature.
I want to emphasize that self-destructive behaviour does not mean simply overeating or skipping exercise. Self-destruction happens in a big way when we internalize negative emotions, stowing them away like baggage in an airplane loft. These pent up emotions make themselves known in various forms – disease, excess weight, acne, irritability and what not.
This tapping script goes above and beyond being a weight loss tapping script. It aims to go to the root of where your unfulfilled need for nurturing lies. This need for nurturing and safety creates attachment to self-destructive behaviour – emotional eating, skipping workouts and storing up all kinds of harmful emotions inside the body.
Tap along to it anytime you feel like you can’t handle the pressures of the world or need to break away from everything. As you continue to use this script, its message will sink in and you will no longer feel the need to indulge in unhealthy behaviour. Then you will no longer need this script either.
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow What if I am hungry for love?
Side of the eye What if I am hungry for safety?
Under the eye A part of me still longs for the comfort
Under the nose of a snugly cuddle and warm milk.
Chin And all cares would slide right off of me.
Collar bone Ah, how easy it was to slip into deep sleep
Under the arm with a full stomach and no worries!
Top of the head But now, I am angry, I am lonely, I’m scared and hungry.
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow Why doesn’t anyone see I want to feel safe and loved?
Side of the eye I long to recreate the warmth of my babyhood.
Under the eye But how long will I keep waiting for those
Under the nose invisible hands that may never caress my cares away?
Chin How long will I keep punishing myself
Collar bone for the absence of those whose responsibility I am?
Under the arm How long will I keep hurting, waiting for that magic fairy?
Top of the head How long will I keep giving in to harmful impulses
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow trying to recreate the illusion of a “full stomach”?
Side of the eye How much more I will have to store inside my body
Under the eye to recreate the coziness of the cuddles I miss so much?
Under the nose When will I see that as a grown up
Chin I am mighty capable of wiping my cares away,
Collar bone even on an empty stomach?
Under the arm What if I am starting to see it little by little?
Top of the head Even if I did not have enough support growing up,
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow or had too much of it for it to be limiting me now,
Side of the eye I choose to be there for me, starting now.
Under the eye No matter what happened to me in the past,
Under the nose or what I fear may happen if things improve,
Chin I choose to stop this self-sabotage now.
Collar bone I choose to get off the track of self-destruction now.
Under the arm I choose to be a great parent and friend to me now.
Top of the head I promise to be the most dependable friend to me now.
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow Once and for all, I choose to release
Side of the eye all this hurt, all this resentment, all this fear
Under the eye from every single cell of my body now.
Under the nose I choose to stop treating my body
Chin as a storehouse of emotions I can’t handle.
Collar bone I am capable of dealing with upsetting truths
Under the arm and painful emotions then and there.
Top of the head From now on, I choose to work my way through
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow upsetting feelings and let them wither away peacefully.
Side of the eye I choose to respect my body for what it is, priceless.
Under the eye I choose to release this nasty habit of punishing myself
Under the nose by overindulging in what’s bad for me.
Chin I choose to find healthy and satisfying ways
Collar bone of rewarding myself too.
Under the arm I am stronger than I give myself credit for.
Top of the head Instead of running for cover whenever I panic,
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow I will now choose to give myself a reality check.
Side of the eye Starting now, I choose to unearth surprising,
Under the eye new sources of strength from within.
Under the nose I forgive myself for all the hurt I have caused my body.
Chin In my ignorance, I found an easy victim in my body.
Collar bone I didn’t know any better. Now I do.
Under the arm I choose healing now.
Top of the head I am capable, calm and confident. And so it is.
I’m so glad you mentioned the word “safety”. that seems to be such an issue for me.
I feel you Rebecca. Safety is a big one for me too, and not just when it comes to my weight.
My body is priceless…
This really resonated with me. I treat some of my possessions better than I treat my own body but possessions can be replaced if they go wrong.
Thanks for this.
Thank you Joan. I’m glad it helped. I have myself been guilty of taking my body for granted in the past.
Wow, Joan, YOUR words resonated with me. I DO treat some of my possessions better than my body!
Great article! I too, am an EFT practitioner and Coach, and EFT is like a miracle tool. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and perfectly stated phrases to work with weight related issues. Kudos!
I’m just beginning to find out about tapping and am curious to know why the tapping points you use don’t include the wrist and the side of the hand.
Ironically, safety means trust. The Tapping has opened a new wave of knowing that Food is what I trust and need to develop trust first in self then in others with whom I experience life with and through. Thank you for the guidance as I have found a nugget that needs attention for my personal growth. Exceptional Move in my Journey to Personhood.