Did someone in your childhood or even adulthood, declare what a loser you were or going to turn out to be? Someone you looked up to, or someone who had power over you? A school teacher, a snarky aunt or even your own parent?
Insulting words can remain stuck in our psyche and can often run our lives, even without our conscious knowledge. And then we start to wonder if there wasn’t some truth in what they said, since we are turning out to be losers alright. Somebody’s hurtful words from the past can actually turn into your personal motto, unknowingly, and block your success at every step. A part of us does not want to argue with what was said since we still feel disempowered. How about we try tapping to clear out this harmful memory?
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Tip: For better results, pick an emotionally intense incident such that someone’s insulting words from that time still rankle in your mind. In a single go of the script, focus on this incident and person(s). It is okay if more of their harsh words from another time come to mind. Just acknowledge that and keep tapping.
Even though they said I’ll amount to nothing, and I thought it true, it is unfortunate that somebody’s words have held me back all this time.
Even though they said I’m not fit to be successful, and it was very damaging, a part of me is just perpetuating that damage by still believing what they said.
Even though they sniggered at me and made me feel like a complete loser, I want to stop feeling this way. I don’t want to be bound anymore by what anyone said about me.
Even though I could not argue with what they said, then, a part of me now questions their authority to make remarks about my life.
Eyebrow They said it. In so many words.
Side of the eye I’ll never be successful.
Under the eye I’ll just be a loser.
Under the nose It’s all turning out just as they said.
Chin I was so impressionable then.
Collar bone I didn’t have enough resources
Under the arm at the time to argue with them.
Top of the head I just believed them.
Eyebrow They held power over me.
Side of the eye But no more!
Under the eye But if what they said was not true
Under the nose to at least some degree
Chin then what explains all my failures?
Collar bone Could it be that their words
Under the arm became a self-fulfilling prophecy for me?
Top of the head It sure felt like they knew
Eyebrow what they were talking about.
Side of the eye But a part of me now questions that.
Under the eye Did they really tell the truth
Under the nose or were they just driven by their own
Chin problems to find a victim in me
Collar bone whom they could put down
Under the arm by way of those damaging words?
Top of the head I have lived by their words long enough.
Eyebrow It is time to break free!
Side of the eye But a part of me won’t let go.
Under the eye Those words seemed so true.
Under the nose What if they would just leave this decision
Chin about whether or not I’m a loser, to me?
Collar bone I am the best judge of myself.
Under the arm Since no one knows me better than myself.
Top of the head What if they just didn’t know any better?
Eyebrow At the time, I was in a state of mind
Side of the eye where I couldn’t question what they said.
Under the eye But no more! I will decide for myself.
Under the nose I am open to releasing this black cloud
Chin that has shadowed my life all this time.
Collar bone Releasing all these negative words
Under the arm that have hung over me all this time.
Top of the head Releasing the echoes of those damaging words.
Eyebrow Gearing myself up for healing now.
Side of the eye It’s time to heal any and all damage I have allowed
Under the eye into my life just because of someone’s off-handed remarks.
Under the nose It is my life and I’m responsible for it.
Chin So it is no one else’s place to tell me
Collar bone how I should turn out to be.
Under the arm Releasing all this hurt I have carried around in my heart.
Top of the head Releasing all this pain, dejection and memories
Eyebrow that are doing me no good.
Side of the eye I owe it to myself. It’s high time
Under the eye to set myself free, to live by MY words.
Under the nose So I’m doing just that.
Chin Wiping out any and all traces of abusive words,
Collar bone imagery and haunting echoes from my life.
Under the arm Setting myself free from the past, for good.
Top of the head And choosing to be calm and confident.
With this, you may start to notice subtle changes in your life. Some notable changes may be that when you encounter any blocks to your success, you will not habitually think back to those words to acknowledge their truth. When you look back to the time when those words were spoken, you may feel okay, neutral, and not upset. If you do not see these benefits, it might be worth tapping through this script once again with the same focus incident or other similar incidents. If other negative thoughts come to mind while tapping through this script, make a note of them and tap on them after you are done with this script.