Last weekend an opportunity showed up in disguise. It began with my getting very angry about something. It feels awful being angry, since it is a painful emotion.
But when against my wanting, I did start to feel angry, I thought to make better use of it instead of fighting it. That gave me a chance to write this tap-along feeling purely angry.
Whenever you find yourself feeling angry, you can use this EFT tapping script right in the heat of the moment.
This EFT script is also good for when you’ve been holding on to anger from your past. It doesn’t matter how long it has been, or whether you still have any anger left about what happened. Tapping through the script would bring up and clear out feelings that you thought were buried long ago.
I’m not going to argue whether or not anger can lead to serious disease. But releasing pent up anger could just be the best way to deal with it.
We’ll start out by tapping on the side of the hand while saying the statements below. This set up tapping on the side of the hand addresses the psychological reversal or self-sabotage. It addresses that part of your psyche that could be preventing you from letting go of negative feelings, thinking that they are actually useful for you.
Even though I don’t want to let this anger go, I accept myself for wanting to hang on to these angry thoughts and feelings.
Even though it feels like this all-consuming anger is necessary in this situation, part of me is wondering if there are any healthier choices for me.
Even though calming down sounds like I will be taking injustice lying down, what if there was an empowering yet peaceful way out? Nah, peace isn’t going to cut it in this case. What if it does?
Now we come to the tapping points on the face and body. It is okay if you use more or fewer tapping points than listed in this script. Just tap along using the points you normally use.
This is the part where we express our feelings of anger, no-holds-barred. These first rounds are just like as if you were ranting out to a close friend about what happened.
EFT for anger: Ranting (round 1)
Eyebrow I’m so angry! How can I not be?
Side of the eye It would be stupid of me to not be angry.
Under the eye I’m really really angry about what happened.
Under the nose Did this have to happen?
Chin I cannot take it lying down!
Collar bone Enough is enough!
Under the arm It is so hard to contain this anger.
Top of the head But I need to be angry.
EFT for anger: Ranting (round 2)
Eyebrow I’m feeling hurt. I’m feeling sad.
Side of the eye I’m feeling dejected.
Under the eye Am I supposed to make peace with it?
Under the nose How does one get over something like this?
Chin Why must I be the victim?
Collar bone Is this all I’m worth?
Under the arm I want to take some action, I want to fight back!
Top of the head I will have to set it right, one way or another!
Certain physical symptoms start to rise a few milliseconds before we discover we are angry. Here we address those symptoms of anger. Depending on how much anger you are feeling right now, some of these will touch a nerve more closely. So tune in to your body as you tap along to this round.
EFT for anger: Physical symptoms
Eyebrow I’m so buzzed with all this anger
Side of the eye bolting through my body.
Under the eye My blood is boiling, my pulse is racing.
Under the nose I’m stiff with anger.
Chin My breathing is fast and shallow.
Collar bone This anxious flutter in my chest,
Under the arm daring me to go and fight it out.
Top of the head What have I become?
This is the part where you start to understand the psychology behind your anger. You start to understand the downside of feeling angry. You start to realize what this anger has been doing for you. Or to you.
EFT for anger: Psychology (round 1)
Eyebrow I’m afraid that if I don’t remain angry,
Side of the eye I’ll take this injustice in my stride.
Under the eye By being angry I’m showing that I’m on my side.
Under the nose I’m also holding on to anger from past many many
Chin incidents when I was wronged.
Collar bone My anger is feeding onto those past triggers
Under the arm and making me feel angrier.
Top of the head My anger has taken control of my senses.
EFT for anger: Psychology (round 2)
Eyebrow This anger is setting me up for failure, and remorse.
Side of the eye I have done regrettable things
Under the eye under the influence of anger.
Under the nose Anger has ruined precious relationships for me.
Chin It’s like an enemy within. What a tragedy!
Collar bone Whatever wrongs may have been done to me,
Under the arm this anger is amplifying them
Top of the head to make them look like a mortal threat.
EFT for anger: Psychology (round 3)
Eyebrow This anger makes me see the world as a hostile place.
Side of the eye How did I, a peaceful creature, get here?
Under the eye It is others who disrupt my peace.
Under the nose It is they who are responsible for my rightful anger.
Chin I’m holding some anger towards myself too.
Collar bone But my being angry isn’t doing zilch as the situation stands.
Under the arm This anger sets me back
Top of the head to a primitive mode of functioning.
EFT for anger: Psychology (round 4)
Eyebrow It makes my thoughts incoherent.
Side of the eye And I sound like a mumbling fool.
Under the eye If I can’t get my words together,
Under the nose how the heck will I get any revenge?
Chin Anger makes me look weak and needy.
Collar bone The exact opposite of how I want to be.
Under the arm And it throws my common sense out of the window.
Top of the head So there goes my chance of one-upping the enemy!
This is the part where, angry feelings addressed to some extent, you get into a questioning mode. You start to look for rational alternatives, even if wishfully.
EFT for anger: Questioning
Eyebrow What if I could deal with the matter
Side of the eye without this malicious anger spilling over into my life?
Under the eye What if I could identify what my anger is telling me?
Under the nose And trust myself to take constructive action?
Chin What if I could display anger without making my blood boil?
Collar bone What if I could sound stern without frothing inside?
Under the arm So I could respond from an empowered vantage point
Top of the head instead of reacting foolishly?
Here we make conscious choices for the future.
EFT for anger: Choices (round 1)
Eyebrow Maybe I don’t need to use anger
Side of the eye as a loudpeaker for my feelings.
Under the eye When I am true to my convictions,
Under the nose everyone can hear me loud and clear.
Chin From now, I choose for my common sense
Collar bone to be triggered faster than my retaliatory instincts.
Under the arm I’m releasing this urge to go and do something
Top of the head that I might regret later.
EFT for anger: Choices (round 2)
Eyebrow I’m releasing all this anger, for my sake.
Side of the eye My angry feelings have served their purpose.
Under the eye I’m letting any residual anger go.
Under the nose I have a level head on my shoulders.
Chin I’m releasing the grudges, they’re just a burden.
Collar bone I’m feeling lighter. I’ve regained control.
Under the arm This is already a win for me.
Top of the head I’m now calm and confident.
With one or more tapping rounds of this script you may notice the symptoms and intensity of anger subsiding. You may also get reminded of various reasons that may be causing your anger. So while running those reasons in your mind, just tap along to those as well. You may also find this script about EFT tapping for disappointment and associated anger and this other one with EFT tapping when you are feeling upset and stressed useful.