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Scarcity Mindset and Money Worry Program

Module 1: Worry and sadness about lack of money

EFT Tapping Points

How to use the audio tap-alongs

The above picture shows the EFT tapping points we will be using. Click the picture to see a larger version. One round of EFT begins with the eyebrow point and ends at the top of the head. You will hear a gentle bell sound when it is time to move to the next tapping point. For example, after tapping on the eyebrow point, you will hear a bell sound which will be your cue to move to the next point – the side of the eye. It is okay if you miss the bell and happen to tap on two or more statements at the same point.

Downloadable mp3

Click the link to download the mp3 file to your computer / device Download EFT for Money Worry

Transcript:

This module has 2 tapping sequences. We will first tap on our present emotions around lack of money. Even if you feel like you have a good enough income, don’t skip this segment. Oftentimes, we try to stay positive despite lack of money and ignore all the dejection simmering underneath. That dejection is like friction working against our money making efforts. It’s always better to let it out and tap it away. So let’s get started.

Tap on the karate chop while repeating aloud or simply listening to the following set up statements.

Even though it hurts to not have enough money for all that I want and need, I deeply and completely love, accept and appreciate myself.

Even though my life feels so restricted because of not having enough money, I deeply and completely love, accept and appreciate myself.

Even though I’m afraid it is very difficult to pull in money, I am open to learning how to release this fear around money and invite more of it into my life.

Now we will go to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point. You could repeat the statements aloud or simply listen and focus on them as you tap along.

Round 1

  1. Life feels so restricted.
  2. I just never have enough money.
  3. I’m always worried too.
  4. It worries to think I may not have enough for the future.
  5. This worry is always there in the back of my mind.
  6. Reminding me to curb my spending at every step.
  7. The economy isn’t helping either.
  8. There are some things I dearly want.

Round 2

  1. There are some things I dearly need.
  2. All out of my reach because of not having enough money.
  3. I feel like I’m choking. I need more breathing room.
  4. I feel like a failure for not bringing in enough money.
  5. I feel ashamed that I am not good enough to bring in enough money.
  6. I feel angry for not having enough money.
  7. I feel so dejected that nothing I do brings in enough money.
  8. I feel like it is futile to expect that I can have enough money.

Round 3

  1. Life has become this struggle to make enough money just to survive.
  2. I am undercutting my existence by living in such a restricted way.
  3. Just because of not having enough money.
  4. I could use more breathing room when it comes to money.
  5. I feel weighed down by the financial demands of my life.
  6. It feels like I was given this priceless human life
  7. only to be bound at every step by my lack of money.
  8. I try really hard to make sure my loved ones have everything they need.

Round 4

  1. I scrimp and I save to make sure that we don’t run out of money.
  2. It breaks my heart to see my loved ones can’t afford something they need.
  3. Or that they have to settle for the cheapest stuff always.
  4. The look on their faces just cuts right through me.
  5. I like to tell myself that I am just being frugal, not wasting money.
  6. That even works sometimes, but then the harsh reality sets in
  7. that we live this way out of necessity not out of choice.
  8. Every price tag only seems to be a sign of how I can’t have this or that.

Round 5

  1. It is so unfair that someone somewhere is flying private jets
  2. and hosting gala dinners when I have to struggle
  3. with my monthly budget actually lasting a whole month.
  4. Even if it does, that is only because I cut down on my wish list.
  5. I have to deny myself things that could really benefit me.
  6. Only because I don’t have enough money.
  7. By constantly denying myself the richness of life, I’m shortchanging myself.
  8. When will I ever be able to place myself first,

Round 6

  1. before all the bills, before all the budgets, before all the debt?
  2. I see so many people who have it much easier than me.
  3. They don’t look any more deserving of prosperity than I do.
  4. This disparity tugs at my heart every time I see them.
  5. All the wonderful places on earth I could visit.
  6. All the fine foods and wines I could enjoy.
  7. All the needy people I could help.
  8. If only I had enough money.

Round 7

  1. Alas, all of this seems meant for others, not me.
  2. And then just like that one day my life will be over.
  3. A life lived hardly to the fullest,
  4. just because of not having enough money.
  5. I’ll be just another person who lived paycheck to paycheck
  6. and got no means to make a mark in the world.
  7. Just because of not having enough money.
  8. I wish it didn’t have to be like this.

Now if you think about your money situation, do you still feel fearful and angry or are you going hm… ? If you are feeling somewhat hopeful, let’s go to the next tapping sequence in this module. Otherwise, let’s go over this sequence once again. It is not only totally fine to go over a tapping sequence as many times as you need but also beneficial.

For the next tapping sequence, we will go directly to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 8

  1. There are ways in which I can make a mark in the world,
  2. I don’t need money for that.
  3. Sometimes I feel guilty thinking that I want too much.
  4. But who gets to say how much is too much?
  5. Is too much the amount I won’t be able to handle safely?
  6. Is too much the amount that will make me an arrogant and selfish person?
  7. But money holds so much power in the world,
  8. it might give me false pride and arrogance.

Round 9

  1. The truth is, money is just a means to an end.
  2. Like a fork or a spoon or a knife.
  3. On its own it has no power over me.
  4. My knife and fork haven’t made me arrogant
  5. even though they are powerful means to an end.
  6. What if I could choose not to be threatened by money?
  7. Or lack of it?
  8. I am relaxing around money.

Round 10

  1. And even if I have so little of it, it grows and grows even as we speak.
  2. My little money is so powerful, it pays me many times over.
  3. My little money makes me feel rich every day.
  4. My little money works for me.
  5. I put my money where it can bring in more of its brothers.
  6. Instead of criticizing my money over how little it is,
  7. and beating myself on not having enough of it,
  8. I choose to have a mutually beneficial relationship with money.

Round 11

  1. Money needs me as much as I need it.
  2. I am the source, the conduit and the receiver of money.
  3. Money flows through me easily and effortlessly.
  4. I help my money grow.
  5. My money helps me grow.
  6. It’s a win win!
  7. I’m finally making friends with money.
  8. And feeling calm and confident.

Now take a deep breath and relax. Go about your day and notice if you see things differently. You can come back and tap along to the sequences as many times as you like. The positive choices that you have made in this module should start to feel true to you. That’s when you will know that you’ve absorbed all the goodness of the module. Otherwise, tap through it a few more times. You will see a difference with each run.

Module 2: Feeling weighed down by the burden of debt and bills

EFT Tapping Points

How to use the audio tap-alongs

The above picture shows the EFT tapping points we will be using. Click the picture to see a larger version. One round of EFT begins with the eyebrow point and ends at the top of the head. You will hear a gentle bell sound when it is time to move to the next tapping point. For example, after tapping on the eyebrow point, you will hear a bell sound which will be your cue to move to the next point – the side of the eye. It is okay if you miss the bell and happen to tap on two or more statements at the same point.

Downloadable mp3

Click the link to download the mp3 file to your computer / device Download Burden of Debt and Bills

Transcript:

This module has 2 tapping sequences. We will first tap on our present emotions around debt and bills. Tapping will enable you to look at the debt situation rationally instead of emotionally. For a moment, think about your mortgage, car loan, student loan, unpaid medical bills or any other personal loans that need repaying. Also think about any bills you have received lately. It can be a huge car servicing bill or an electricity bill or anything else of that sort. Doesn’t it feel like a burden? Remember this feeling because after this tapping we will check back to see how you feel about it.

Tap on the karate chop while repeating aloud or simply listening to the following set up statements.

Even though all the debt and unpaid bills feel like a huge burden month after month, I love, accept and appreciate myself.Even though I feel hopeless of ever being able to pay off all the debt and bills and still have enough for my needs, I love, accept and appreciate myself.Even though I blame myself, I blame the economy for my debt and none of this makes me feel better, I choose to find constructive ways of looking at my debt situation.

Now we will go to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point. You could repeat the statements aloud or simply listen and focus on them as you tap along.

Round 1

  1. I can’t breathe!
  2. I look at what needs to be paid and what has to be paid and I can’t breathe.
  3. I try so hard to stretch a dime into a dollar.
  4. Why do I even bother?
  5. It doesn’t seem like I ever get anywhere.
  6. I pay and I pay every month and it just doesn’t get any better.
  7. It feels like my income is already written off by the time it reaches my hands.
  8. Every penny is already spoken for in bills and debt repayment.

Round 2

  1. I am spinning my wheels day in day out,
  2. working my butt off just to be able to afford basic amenities.
  3. If I keep working and paying and working and paying,
  4. when will I get to enjoy the very things I’ve incurred debt for?
  5. Being in debt makes me feel guilty if I buy anything that isn’t an absolute necessity.
  6. I should be paying that money on a bill instead of getting a new pair of jeans, right?
  7. Even when I do have surplus to spend on things I need and want,
  8. I flinch back with guilt and frustration.

Round 3

  1. It is just depressing to see other people going on vacations and spending on luxury
  2. knowing that I will probably never be able to afford to do any of those things.
  3. I seem to live day-to-day just so that I can pay my bills.
  4. Where is the joy, where is the spring in my step?
  5. Oh and heaven forbid you get a little behind.
  6. Because you happen to be short on money and long on bills that month.
  7. Then some pushy, overbearing, rude collector will send a reminder.
  8. Like I don’t feel bad enough already!

Round 4

  1. I hate having to cut corners to survive.
  2. Even with monthly payments, it feels like debt rules my life every single day.
  3. It is always there at the back of my mind.
  4. How am I ever going to get on top of this?
  5. All this debt is like a big boulder on my shoulders.
  6. Not only that, it is my stumbling block for ever worse decisions.
  7. I do not look forward to going into debt, it is something I have had to do.
  8. I wish I could go back in time and make better financial decisions

Round 5

  1. and never be where I am now.
  2. I wish I had not bought into the get it now pay for it later mentality of our society.
  3. Maybe then I could have spared myself from feeling like the world is sitting on my chest
  4. every time I open my wallet.
  5. But in this society, you need a credit card.
  6. I know I have fed the debt monster only to make it bigger.
  7. I can’t begin to live my life until I am done with debt.
  8. At this rate, I never will be.

Round 6

  1. Because every time I am closer to being debt-free,
  2. something flashy or something unexpected comes along
  3. and I am forced to pull out that credit card or apply for that loan.
  4. It feels like a long, unending race ahead and I’ll never get to the finish line.
  5. I wish I could come into a lot of money and all my troubles would be over.
  6. I wish I could sweep it under the carpet, and start over.
  7. What if I could work through it without killing myself?
  8. Debt-free. I like the sound of that.

Now check in with your feelings and see if some of the emotional intensity has subsided. What it means is that you no longer feel as worked up about the debt situation as before. If not, let’s go over the tapping sequence once again. Otherwise, let’s go to the next sequence in the module.

For the next tapping sequence, we will go directly to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 7

  1. Where do I even begin?
  2. I’m already doing the best I can.
  3. What if I am only doing the best that I know right now?
  4. What if there are better ways to tackle the debt that have not dawned on me yet?
  5. What if I began with gratitude?
  6. I am grateful to those who made the money available upfront
  7. so I could own the stuff I needed right when I needed it.
  8. Stuff that without credit I would never have been able to afford.

Round 8

  1. Imagine how it would have been if I needed to first earn all the money
  2. I needed for a house or a car in order to buy one of those necessities.
  3. That could take a lifetime!
  4. So maybe debt is not all that much of a bad guy I’ve made it out to be.
  5. While that doesn’t mean I drop my guard and keep
  6. snowballing more and more debt,
  7. it does mean that I can stop feeling like a victim
  8. and be aware of why I acquired debt in the first place.

Round 9

  1. And while I may have misused my power of borrowing
  2. by spending on things I didn’t need,
  3. I now choose to be aware and wise to that fact.
  4. I forgive myself for getting into a situation
  5. that I’m finding a hard time getting out of.
  6. I am understanding that borrowed money is easier taking for granted
  7. than when every cent you have is worked for.
  8. It makes you think of money in terms of hours and it helps you regulate your spending.

Round 10

  1. Today is a new day. I can find my way through this fog.
  2. My mind, body and spirit are now aligned to help me work my way through this.
  3. I know that as long as I am willing to work on debt,
  4. I am headed in the right direction.
  5. I am an honest, hard working, smart person.
  6. Instead of setting goals to acquire this new thing or that,
  7. I choose to make debt repayment my priority and personal goal.
  8. Even though this sounds limiting as it cuts through my wish list,

Round 11

  1. I choose to remember that financial freedom beats any shiny objects I can buy.
  2. In my war against debt, I am on my side, finally.
  3. I feel strong, I feel like I am in control.
  4. And even though I may not know everything I need to do,
  5. I am learning new ways of loosening the grip of debt.
  6. Whether or not I made the best spending choices in the past,
  7. I now choose to be alert and be in control of where my money is going.
  8. With my new found awareness I choose to feel calm and confident.

So how do you feel now? Think of your debt situation as you did at the beginning of the module. Do you feel relaxed and empowered? If not, let’s go over this tapping sequence once again.

If you got reminded of a specific memory while you were tapping , you will be able to address it now. This memory could be a childhood memory of your parents struggling with debt and monthly bills. Or it could be a memory of your own struggles in the past. Right now you are in a perfect frame of mind to tap on this memory. Remain with this feeling and do a few rounds of Tapping until you start to feel better about it. You do not need to use any words because you are already tuned into the feeling. If you can’t tap now, just make a note of it and come back to it when you can.

Module 3: Sticker shock and misunderstood austerity

EFT Tapping Points

How to use the audio tap-alongs

The above picture shows the EFT tapping points we will be using. Click the picture to see a larger version. One round of EFT begins with the eyebrow point and ends at the top of the head. You will hear a gentle bell sound when it is time to move to the next tapping point. For example, after tapping on the eyebrow point, you will hear a bell sound which will be your cue to move to the next point – the side of the eye. It is okay if you miss the bell and happen to tap on two or more statements at the same point.

Downloadable mp3

Click the link to download the mp3 file to your computer / device Download Sticker Shock and Misunderstood Austerity

Transcript:

Sticker shock is that sinking feeling we get when we see a huge price tag on an item we desire. Knowingly or unknowingly, we all experience sticker shock. To fight it off, we try to cut down on our expenses. After a point, you get into this race to look for lower and lower price tags in order to avoid sticker shock. If you can’t afford something, you can’t afford something. You do not have to suffer an emotional scar every time you come across something out of your budget. This tapping sequence addresses more than just sticker shock. It addresses an error that we sometimes make mistaking scarcity for frugality.

Of course, releasing the dread of price tags does not mean that you will suddenly go crazy with shopping. It will just remove the dread that perpetuates a scarcity mindset so you actually start to make better buying decisions.

During the tapping you may get reminded of specific instances from your life where you desperately felt powerless before a price tag. Was it when you were house hunting? Or looking to buy a new car? Or from your childhood when you wanted something really expensive but your parents couldn’t afford it? Make a note of such memories. When you are done tapping on both the sequences in this module, see if those memories still have any emotional charge. If they do, simply tap on the EFT points while being in that feeling. You will not need to use any words because you will already be in the right frame of mind. So now let’s get started.

Tap on the karate chop while repeating aloud or silently the following set up statements.

Even though I am not comfortable looking at price tags, what’s the point, because more often than not, I disappoint myself, I choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself.Even though a price tag feels like a yellow police tape that prevents me from getting my hands on the things I desire, I love, accept and appreciate myself.Even though I feel powerless looking at a huge price tag, what if I could learn to look at it in a way that actually puts the power back into my hands?

Now we go to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 1

  1. I’m not comfortable looking at price tags.
  2. Price tags make me feel small and ashamed.
  3. Even before I hear a price quote coming,
  4. I get this foreboding feeling of futility and worthlessness.
  5. And there it is, scaring the living daylights out of me.
  6. Sure enough, I can’t afford it.
  7. I saw it coming.
  8. Why did even I bother asking?

Round 2

  1. Unless I resign to live on the streets after my purchase!
  2. My stomach lurches every time I see something out of my budget.
  3. Price tags have become lenses that dim my enjoyment.
  4. Every time I look at a price tag, it only tells me how much I can’t afford something.
  5. Things I so dearly want seem just out of my reach,
  6. because some jerk decided to put a huge price tag on it!
  7. I can’t allow someone to get rich at my cost, no sir!
  8. They are filling their pockets with money.

Round 3

  1. Such people are solely responsible for my hand to mouth existence.
  2. Their greed makes everything just out of my reach.
  3. All the good things in life are free, aren’t they?
  4. Then why does everything that sits on a shelf cost an arm and a leg?
  5. I am not a show-off.
  6. I don’t want to strut around with expensive stuff all the time.
  7. I pride myself on being a person of few needs.
  8. Yet I find it hard to keep up with the prices.

Round 4

  1. Sure enough, some things do make life easy.
  2. But who needs an easy life now,
  3. when the rest of my life I’ll be paying installments?
  4. I’m even afraid to step into stores that seem out of my money’s reach.
  5. Then how am I supposed to “visualize” being rich, huh?
  6. How am I supposed to “visualize” living in a mansion,
  7. when just cruising along a posh neighbourhood
  8. leaves me feeling deprived and depressed?

Round 5

  1. Looking at rich people only reminds me of my lack.
  2. It sucks how little money I have
  3. when so many others can easily get their hands on all the fancy stuff.
  4. Such extravagance, what a waste!
  5. They keep throwing money on stuff they don’t even need.
  6. They could be feeding so many homeless people with that money.
  7. Luxury, opulence, extravagance are only words to me.
  8. I long for things that I hope to afford “some day”.

Round 6

  1. So much of my life has passed hoping for that “some day”.
  2. As I stand, I’ll probably not meet that “some day” anytime soon.
  3. I feel ashamed of my financial status.
  4. None of this shame is because of a crime I have committed.
  5. I’m basically a good person.
  6. Then why do I have to suffer so much shame?
  7. I am the victim here, having so little money.
  8. I need to be consoled, not put to shame!

With this, we have gone through some ranting about price tags. Now this tapping sequence could have got you more worked up about price tags than you were before we started out. That’s perfectly fine. Because now we are going to give it a constructive spin. If you like, rewind the program and tap along to this sequence once again. Or, if you feel you are ready, let’s go to the next tapping sequence in the module.

For the next tapping sequence, we will go directly to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 7

  1. I’m tired of shocking myself with price tags,
  2. tired enough to want to make a change.
  3. What if I could look at price tags nonchalantly?
  4. What if price tags just sounded like a highway number to me?
  5. Or a telephone number?
  6. Will I still be so uncomfortable then?
  7. A highway number just gives me a choice
  8. of whether I want to take that road or not.

Round 8

  1. Likewise, a price tag is actually a choice totally in my hands.
  2. Whether I choose to spend money on an item or not.
  3. A price tag is not a noose to choke myself with.
  4. A price tag is not a club to hold over my head.
  5. Maybe at some point long ago, perhaps as a child,
  6. I learned that exhibiting surprise on a price tag
  7. was a way to show austerity and good intention.
  8. To pick up a toy, see the price tag, and put it back in the shelves.

Round 9

  1. How understanding, how reasonable.
  2. What a good child I was! Making everyone happy!
  3. I saw my parents struggle with prices of everything.
  4. But now I am grown up and I don’t need to prove my worth
  5. by how much I despise expensive things.
  6. I choose to relax around the idea of price tags.
  7. A price tag is just a number!
  8. A price tag is not a measure of my worthiness.

Round 10

  1. A price tag is a tool of empowerment, it gives me a choice.
  2. I’m not competing with the economy or the Joneses.
  3. Different people have different spending set points.
  4. Based on that they attract and spend money.
  5. They live by those rules.
  6. I need to look at what rules I am living by
  7. that make the income and the outgo both painful.
  8. I’m not raging a war against price tags.

Round 11

  1. The world is not out there to fleece me.
  2. Not everything that costs money is bad for me.
  3. Instead of attuning myself to lower and lower price tags,
  4. I choose to attune myself to my highest good and happiness,
  5. so I attract more and more of what benefits me.
  6. With it will come the means to acquire it. I can relax.
  7. It is okay to want more, it is okay to want better.
  8. Knowing that, I choose to feel calm and confident.

So now go out and test your work. If you still wince looking a price tag, you know what to do – come back and tap on this some more. I promise you will benefit by desensitizing yourself to price tags.

Module 4: Feelings of envy that feed a scarcity mindset

EFT Tapping Points

How to use the audio tap-alongs

The above picture shows the EFT tapping points we will be using. Click the picture to see a larger version. One round of EFT begins with the eyebrow point and ends at the top of the head. You will hear a gentle bell sound when it is time to move to the next tapping point. For example, after tapping on the eyebrow point, you will hear a bell sound which will be your cue to move to the next point – the side of the eye. It is okay if you miss the bell and happen to tap on two or more statements at the same point.

Downloadable mp3

Click the link to download the mp3 file to your computer / device Download Envy Feeding a Scarcity Mindset

Transcript:

This tapping sequence is about comparison. Comparison often leads to jealousy. Jealousy weaves directly into a scarcity mindset. Whenever you meet a successful person or their mention comes up, you immediately realize where you are in comparison to them and you feel dejected. You long for their good fortune whether it is their money, their perfect relationship, their appearance, their job or whatever else. This is jealousy.

Research shows that feelings of jealousy are like experiencing physical pain. When jealousy is cleared, you become free to listen to what you really want. Not something you think you should want because others look happy having it. It becomes even more important to address it if we come in regular contact with people we compare ourselves with. The cool thing about this tapping sequence is that it will enable you to clear feelings of comparison and jealousy in almost any area you can think of. So think of someone whose money, relationships, looks, status, abilities or anything for that matter make you feel distinctly uncomfortable, and tap along with me.

Tap on the karate chop while repeating aloud or silently the following set up statements.

Even though it saddens me to see all the goodness coming their way, I am open to turning my feelings of dejection into something positive, even fruitful.

Even though I don’t want to admit that I long for their good fortune, I’m open to listening to my true desires and taking inspired action that will benefit me.

Even though it feels impossible for me to achieve what they already have, I do know that I can make better use of my time by focusing on my success.

Now we will tap on the EFT points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 1

  1. I feel sad because of them.
  2. I feel dejected because of their perfect life.
  3. Their possessions.
  4. Their influence over people who matter.
  5. They have it easy.
  6. I’m jealous of their reasons to smile.
  7. They look so smug.
  8. They look so comfortable.

Round 2

  1. And here I am, just as worthy, if not more.
  2. And yet, struggling for stability.
  3. Where did they get all the good luck,
  4. and I was left with an empty plate?
  5. Did they eat into mine?
  6. It pains me to see someone having it all.
  7. This longing chips away at me day after day.
  8. I seem to be losing my peace simply by observing theirs.

Round 3

  1. Why them? Why not me?
  2. It is so unfair.
  3. Compared to theirs, my life feels like a punishment.
  4. Like I was passed over for a huge promotion.
  5. Promotion in the game of life.
  6. And someone’s smiling.
  7. It is certainly not me.
  8. I’m so jealous, it hurts.

Round 4

  1. My tears and sadness don’t bring relief.
  2. It’s like something inside of me shrivels
  3. each time I’m reminded of their good fortune.
  4. Part of me withers with each proof of their progress.
  5. This longing for their perfect life is like a slow poison.
  6. The more I long for it,
  7. the more imperfect my own life feels.
  8. In so many ways, I’m really the better person

Round 5

  1. to deserve the good things they have claimed.
  2. How did they get to call the shots?
  3. When I have to beg for mine?
  4. They constantly remind me of what I’m missing.
  5. They constantly remind me of what I should have been.
  6. And not in a good way, but a yearning, dejected kind of way.
  7. I’m tired of congratulating others on their successes.
  8. I’m tired of settling for where I am and where they are.

Round 6

  1. It is hard to take my mind away from their good fortune.
  2. The more I compare, the more I feel threatened.
  3. What if I could remember that there is no end to comparison,
  4. because there is no end to my expectations?
  5. Everyone goes through highs and lows even if they don’t show it.
  6. They look happy to me because I focus on their joys.
  7. What if I could focus on my joys, for a change?
  8. When I look at them by first placing myself at rock bottom,

Round 7

  1. everything about them seems high and mighty by default.
  2. What if I could raise my level of where I place myself?
  3. What if I choose to place myself at a happier vantage point?
  4. From where instead of comparing altitudes, I just enjoy the view?
  5. What if I could focus on living well?
  6. Between the two of us, I guess “I” deserve my attention more.
  7. So every time I think about them, I’ll now turn my attention to me.
  8. I choose to feel inspired.

Round 8

  1. Instead of comparison, I choose aspiration.
  2. This is not a compromise, this is freedom.
  3. I’m no longer limited by wanting to make my life look like theirs.
  4. I choose to do my own thing.
  5. Let me not undermine my own value by comparing.
  6. I’m unique, and beyond comparison.
  7. Let them be what they will be.
  8. I choose to be what I will be.

You may notice that the next time you face the person or are reminded of them in some way, you don’t feel as bothered as before. You can use it as many times as you like, focusing on the same person or different people each time.

Module 5: Hoarding and fear of losing what you have

EFT Tapping Points

How to use the audio tap-alongs

The above picture shows the EFT tapping points we will be using. Click the picture to see a larger version. One round of EFT begins with the eyebrow point and ends at the top of the head. You will hear a gentle bell sound when it is time to move to the next tapping point. For example, after tapping on the eyebrow point, you will hear a bell sound which will be your cue to move to the next point – the side of the eye. It is okay if you miss the bell and happen to tap on two or more statements at the same point.

Downloadable mp3

Click the link to download the mp3 file to your computer / device Download Fear of Losing What You Have

Transcript:

A scarcity mindset is about the fear of not having enough. It is also about the fear of losing what you have. What are you afraid to lose? Your job, financial security, a beautiful relationship, good health, youthful looks, that diamond ring, what is it?

A strong concern for people, situations and things you love is a good thing. But if you have regular thoughts about you how terrible your life would be if you lost any of that, it takes the joy out of your present as well. These kind of thoughts rise up when there is news of impending lay offs or when the economy isn’t doing so well.

In non-money matters, such fears come up when you’ve just got into a beautiful relationship and you’re afraid it might fizzle out. Or in terms of health, say you got a great test report giving you a clean bill of health. And then you start to worry what will happen when you don’t have perfect health. Any kind of hope is always accompanied by fearful thoughts. That is a scarcity mindset.

As soon as you have something you wanted, fears and worries crop up about how bad not having it anymore will be. None of this is useful if you want to attract more good things to you. When you relax around the idea of what you already have and feel grateful and suitably detached, that is when you’ve removed desperation out of your thinking. That’s the goal of this tapping sequence. This sequence is not limited to money matters. It can be applied to many many situations and is a great fear buster.

For now, focus on your job or your savings or your house or anything that feeds your money worry. We are going to use the words “this good thing” to mean whatever it is we are afraid to lose. So let’s go.

We will start with the set up tapping on the karate chop.

Even though I’m afraid this good thing will not last, and I’ll be left sulking, I love, accept and appreciate myself.Even though these fearful thoughts about losing this good thing dampen my present joy, I’d rather focus on its goodness than be reminded constantly of how awful my life will be without it.Even though I doubt anything better than this will come along in my life, what if I could learn to appreciate this good thing for its uniqueness, and shed the worry about it being so unique that it cannot be replaced?Even though I’m afraid something bad will happen or someone will do something stupid or malicious and I will lose this good thing, just like that, I acknowledge my fears and this feeling of having no control over external circumstances. It is reasonable to have this fear and I accept myself for that.

Even though the precariousness of it all keeps me up at night and at the edge of my seat in the day, I want to ease into a calm confidence about what I cannot control. I want to feel secure and stable no matter what changes around me.

Now we will tap on the EFT points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 1

  1. This thing is so good, it’s scary.
  2. So convenient, so comforting, so gratifying.
  3. Alas, it won’t last. Nothing good ever lasts.
  4. What would I do without it?
  5. What if it is gone, just like that?
  6. And things are never the same again?
  7. It will be so hard to go back to living without it.
  8. My life will never be the same again.

Round 2

  1. I doubt anything better will come along.
  2. And it’s not always about replacement.
  3. Not everything in life can be replaced.
  4. I’m surprised this good thing has even came to me.
  5. Yes, it took some blood, sweat and tears, but I have it now.
  6. I can’t believe I have received it! Of all people, me!
  7. I refuse to believe that I’m the chosen one.
  8. Sometimes it feels like my survival depends on it.

Round 3

  1. I fear something will change suddenly for no fault of mine.
  2. And I’ll be standing by the roadside watching it fly out of my hands.
  3. You know what they say, easy come, easy go.
  4. Things have been taken away from me in the past for no good reason.
  5. I don’t want to hang my hopes here.
  6. I don’t want to get used to the good life.
  7. So much depends on everything working right.
  8. So much depends on chance and balance.

Round 4

  1. So much depends on my looking good in the eyes of people who matter.
  2. It drains me to even hold this set up together.
  3. Just the thought of not having it any longer
  4. makes my stomach lurch and my heart sink.
  5. This foreboding feeling, this gloom as if I am already grieving.
  6. My relationship with this thing is of fear
  7. and not so much gratitude or fulfillment.
  8. No wonder I feel afraid.

The tapping so far was to bring up some of your emotions around this thing. If you like, go over the sequence once again, otherwise let’s go to the next sequence. For the next tapping sequence, we will go directly to the tapping points starting with the eyebrow point.

Round 5

  1. Part of me thinks if I fear losing this thing, I’ll guard it better.
  2. But my trying to hold it tighter
  3. isn’t making it more “mine” than it already is.
  4. This fear of losing it is only making it harder to hold on to it even now.
  5. It prevents me from being truly grateful about having this thing.
  6. What if I could focus on how good this thing is,
  7. instead of focusing on how bad it will be to lose it?
  8. Maybe part of me doesn’t believe I deserve it.

Round 6

  1. What if I could be more confident about the fact
  2. that since this good thing IS present in my life,
  3. I have rightfully attracted it through my thoughts and actions?
  4. Even if some things do have an expiry date,
  5. I choose to trust myself enough to take all changes in my stride,
  6. and do what I need to do.
  7. With every change, I evolve and grow.
  8. My thoughts and opinions change with time.

Round 7

  1. I can never tell what my thoughts will be in the future.
  2. So why am I worrying about the future?
  3. Maybe I can release these thoughts of lack,
  4. and having to do without.
  5. Maybe I can release this need to try to freeze the moments.
  6. And choose instead to enjoy every moment.
  7. This is not to say I’m writing this good thing off my life,
  8. or preparing for its demise.

Round 8

  1. I’m just detaching myself enough
  2. to be able to appreciate all its goodness.
  3. Like how one needs to stand a little farther away from a painting
  4. to fully appreciate it.
  5. I’m releasing the fear that this thing could one day be taken away.
  6. I’m choosing instead to be grateful
  7. for it being in my life right here, right now.
  8. And last but not the least, thanking myself

Round 9

  1. for attracting it into my life.
  2. I deserve this good thing. Yes I do.
  3. And even though not everything in life can be replaced,
  4. I choose to be open to better versions, why not?
  5. This or better.
  6. Or this but better. Works for me!
  7. And even though the unexpected can happen anytime,
  8. and it can throw me out of my comfort zone,

Round 10

  1. I am understanding that when I step out of my comfort zone,
  2. I surprise myself with opportunities and rich experiences.
  3. I’m mighty good at handling surprises even if I don’t know it.
  4. I can deal with whatever happens. I really can.
  5. No matter what happens, I will be okay.
  6. I choose to be okay.
  7. Actually better than okay.
  8. I choose to be calm, confident and grateful.

If your feelings of fear are pretty intense, you might need to go over this module a few times over. You don’t have to do all of that today. You can come back and run these sequences whenever you feel like.

Bonus

EFT troubleshooting guide

Good luck!

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