“I could have done it better. I should have done that instead. I’m just so stupid when it comes to …” And so on.
We’ve all heard it. Yes, this is the sound of our inner critic that has the self-proclaimed duty to drive us towards perfection by means of constant quibbling.
This voice sounds especially strong when we are faced with a stressful situation. While it makes sense to have an inner compass that directs us to behave in the best way possible, too much of nit picking weakens our self-esteem. It makes us unsure of any action we take. It makes our behaviour stiff from fear of more criticism.
So why don’t we try EFT tapping to see if we can mellow down this rough inner critic so that it can become our guiding star instead?
EFT tapping set up
Even though my inner critic is constantly at work, belittling me, I want to let it know that I’ve had enough of this nagging! Yes, I should be doing this or that, but I can just BE? I want to be myself, instead of constantly “shoulding” on myself.
Even though it seems like my hypercritical mind is trying to keep me on the right track, I am now starting to question whether all this nit-picking is really helping me at all.
Even though I criticize myself because if I don’t, someone else will, what if I go easy on myself for a change? What if I could be my best friend with loving care and good advice?
Even though my mind is always on overdrive, being overcritical, I want to release this need to constantly slap negative labels on myself. I want to be more loving and caring towards myself and that seems like a good thing to do.
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow I can never be good enough in my eyes.
Side of the eye Part of me is always busy,
Under the eye finding faults with whatever I do.
Under the nose I’ve got so used to this internal bashing
Chin that it now comes naturally to me.
Collar bone I keep saying I want to feel good,
Under the arm but I don’t really want to
Top of the head allow myself to feel good.
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow This negative reel is always whirring
Side of the eye in my mind, telling me how I could have,
Under the eye should have, done this or that.
Under the nose If it were someone other than I
Chin who was criticising me this much,
Collar bone I would have given them an earful
Under the arm and kicked them out of my life.
Top of the head But it is I, who is my constant saboteur.
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow I’m afraid that if I don’t find fault
Side of the eye with myself, someone else will.
Under the eye I’m afraid someone will get angry
Under the nose with me no matter what I do.
Chin Someone will badmouth me or disown me,
Collar bone if I don’t conform to the ideal behaviour.
Under the arm And then where will I be?
Top of the head Maybe as a child, I was under a lot
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow of pressure to be a “good” kid,
Side of the eye or someone would get upset.
Under the eye Someone I loved, and looked up to,
Under the nose found fault with my actions regularly.
Chin And I am perpetuating that
Collar bone niggling in order to keep
Under the arm myself on the right track.
Top of the head And I keep trying to fine tune
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow my behaviour every living moment
Side of the eye by way of criticising myself.
Under the eye Even though this may have worked
Under the nose for me in the past, I’m realizing that it is
Chin a very brutal way of treating myself.
Collar bone It’s not like I’m a wild beast
Under the arm who shouldn’t be let loose.
Top of the head I’m a good person, and I really
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow do deserve to be treated with
Side of the eye love and respect by everyone, including myself.
Under the eye But if I don’t keep finding fault with
Under the nose myself, how will I ever learn?
Chin How will I ever improve and become perfect?
Collar bone Wait a sec, who said it was about
Under the arm becoming perfect anyway?
Top of the head So what if I’m not perfect?
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow This constant hair-splitting
Side of the eye hampers my true nature.
Under the eye This inner critic prevents me from reaching out.
Under the nose This constant quibbling is stunting my growth.
Chin What if I could channel this internal lambasting
Collar bone towards something positive?
Under the arm What if I could see how my inner critic
Top of the head can guide me instead of hampering me?
EFT tapping round 8
Eyebrow Perhaps my inner critic is drawing my attention
Side of the eye to areas where I could use some help.
Under the eye Maybe the questions to ask myself are
Under the nose How can I help myself become better?
Chin What am I doing RIGHT?
Collar bone Maybe I don’t need to keep judging myself.
Under the arm Or generalizing about how bad I am.
Top of the head I am good enough just as I am.
EFT tapping round 9
Eyebrow And if I don’t fit someone’s picture
Side of the eye of perfection, then so be it.
Under the eye I choose to make friends
Under the nose with my inner critic, so it can guide me,
Chin but in a gentle, caring way.
Collar bone I’m accepting myself just as I am.
Under the arm I am at peace with myself.
Top of the head I’m choosing to be calm and confident.
Repeat tapping through the script until you can feel a shift to a more understanding and compassionate mindset towards yourself. Also tap on any childhood memories that may arise to remind you of a hard-to-please parent or teacher or a critical someone who had influence over you. Come back and do this exercise whenever you feel like you’ve got into that hypercritical state again.
If you are dealing with a hypercritical person other than you, use this EFT script on dealing with critical people. Here’s another EFT script that will help you dispel your fear of displeasing others.