Even if Gregarious is your middle name, there could be certain people around whom you find it difficult to feel comfortable. There could be cold vibes between you, a silent desire for competitive one-upmanship, or even flirtatious sexual tension. Perhaps you like this person, but can’t be yourself around them. Perhaps you hate the sight of them, but you’re stuck with them due to your work, commute or some forsaken reason. You take to putting on a facade around them, or trying to avoid their company altogether. Either way, it is useless torture and you shouldn’t have to suffer silently especially if that person isn’t even aware of how they make you feel. How about we try EFT tapping to see if we can be more confident and relaxed the next time we run into this person?
EFT tapping set up
Even though I feel uncomfortable around this person, it’s a good thing I’m acknowledging my feeling this way.
Even though I just can’t be myself and act natural in front of this person, and that hampers my style, I wish I didn’t have to feel inhibited around them.
Even though there’s just something that prevents me from being comfortable around this person, I’m open to learning what I can do to feel better about myself and at greater ease when I’m around this person.
Even though I feel guilty that my rapport isn’t better with this person, I understand that not everyone I come across will become bosom pals with me, and that’s okay.
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow This person makes me uncomfortable.
Side of the eye I just can’t relax or be myself.
Under the eye I feel inadequate around this person.
Under the nose There are these weird vibes between us.
Chin Things they say make me wonder,
Collar bone if they have a hidden agenda I need to know.
Under the arm I’m unable to decipher their intentions.
Top of the head I feel defensive around this person.
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow I’m doubtful if they even like me.
Side of the eye A part of me wants them to like me.
Under the eye Being around them makes me feel guilty
Under the nose of not being good enough.
Chin I feel bad that I’m not able to
Collar bone bring out the best they have to offer.
Under the arm I feel straitjacketed around them.
Top of the head What if they are afraid to show their true side
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow to me for fear of being judged?
Side of the eye They seem so cool, it’s like they’re hiding something.
Under the eye Something’s definitely brewing under the hood.
Under the nose Those unsaid things are making me uncomfortable.
Chin This nagging feeling to pay attention.
Collar bone But I don’t even know what to address.
Under the arm Or maybe I do have some idea.
Top of the head But this fuzziness isn’t helping clear the air.
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow If I went by my gut and confronted them,
Side of the eye what if I come across as overly sensitive?
Under the eye What if they look at me like
Under the nose I’m weird for wanting to talk it over?
Chin Or intrusive to read too much into our equation?
Collar bone What if they feel threatened by my straight talk?
Under the arm What if we become even more distant?
Top of the head What if I turn out to be the bad person,
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow or the “abnormal” one, for wanting to talk it over?
Side of the eye What if I’m allowing myself to be manipulated
Under the eye by not speaking up?
Under the nose What if they don’t want to face the truth,
Chin and start blaming me in return?
Collar bone How will I handle that?
Under the arm It feels like a lose-lose situation.
Top of the head I have this weird feeling in my stomach.
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow This dilemma, this tension is torturing me.
Side of the eye I just want to be myself. I want a clear head.
Under the eye I could start by being myself and naturally relaxed.
Under the nose I could start by being sincere and tactfully honest.
Chin I could start by accepting them for what they are
Collar bone instead of judging or correcting them.
Under the arm I could start by reaching out and opening up a bit more.
Top of the head I could start by acknowledging any differences
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow between us and being okay about them.
Side of the eye I could start by being more aware of my thoughts
Under the eye and feelings, so I can address what needs addressing.
Under the nose I could help this person feel better,
Chin but not by feeling sorry for myself.
Collar bone At the same time, if their company
Under the arm is harmful for my well-being,
Top of the head I choose not to compromise just to keep the peace.
EFT tapping round 8
Eyebrow I choose to take constructive action.
Side of the eye Releasing this need to be perfect.
Under the eye Whether they like me or not is up to them.
Under the nose Releasing this need for validation from this person.
Chin I’m choosing to remember to focus inward,
Collar bone on my breathing and my thoughts,
Under the arm every time I feel uneasy around this person.
Top of the head I choose to be safe, calm and confident.