When a relationship breaks down, there is an immediate rush of all kinds of emotions.
You vow never to look at the person again. You blame them for the breakup. You thank yourself for being rid of it. You tell yourself how bad things had gotten. And how this was long in coming.
And then you kind of decide to move on. You think of it as a shut case.
The case is shut, but is it over? After everything is said and done, pangs of regret may remain. After you think you have moved on, longing about how things could have eventually worked out, may linger. As the dust settles, a residual sadness may surface, to always remind you of the failed relationship.
Clearing these negative emotions can pave the way for more successful and desirable relationships in the future.
This EFT tapping script focuses on releasing all the sadness, longing and regret that lingers when a relationship falls apart.
This broken relationship could be with your girlfriend / boyfriend, friend, spouse, co-worker, sibling, parent, or even your hairdresser. It hurts when any precious relationship succumbs to circumstances.
EFT tapping set up phrases
Even though it feels like I will never really get over this relationship, despite all the reasons that brought it to an end, I want to start feeling better, slowly, but surely.
Even though I feel sad and powerless because of all the missed possibilities this relationship could have grown into, I’m open to looking at it from a peaceful and empowered vantage point.
Even though I still miss being in the relationship, and I’m holding on to a remote hope that actually just ties me down, I’m open to releasing this need to hold on to wreckage. It looks hard, but I am willing to adopt it in my thinking in the gentlest way possible.
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow I miss how things were.
Side of the eye It didn’t have to end this way.
Under the eye Just like that.
Under the nose I wish it had worked out.
Chin Thinking that it wasn’t meant to work isn’t any solace.
Collar bone I don’t think I can get over it.
Under the arm I’m not a robot that can add and delete relationships.
Top of the head I still cannot believe what happened.
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow My heart feels heavy with grief and shock.
Side of the eye It hurts to think that I’m still suffering
Under the eye when the other person has likely moved on.
Under the nose I hate it that I’m so emotional about it.
Chin I’m still holding on to hope that things will turn around.
Collar bone I tried hard to make it work.
Under the arm Along with the relationship, I lost all the wonderful possibilities of what could have been.
Top of the head This emptiness is chipping away at me.
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow I wish the relationship had grown despite all the missing links,
Side of the eye instead of coming to a dead end.
Under the eye Why couldn’t we see past the setbacks?
Under the nose Things looked promising.
Chin Maybe underneath all my happiness,
Collar bone part of me felt that it was too good to be true.
Under the arm At some level, I was filled with fear
Top of the head that it would slip out of my hands.
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow Maybe we were simply not suited for each other.
Side of the eye Maybe I was suspicious of where it was headed,
Under the eye instead of enjoying it for what it was, in the moment.
Under the nose Maybe I got lost in my frenzy to make things work.
Chin In the process, I missed grave signs of impending doom.
Collar bone Maybe I kept wanting to make it work,
Under the arm even when the cracks in the wall were there for everyone to see.
Top of the head Whatever it was, I’m sad it didn’t work out.
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow I tried hard, I appreciated the good things.
Side of the eye And yet it had to end.
Under the eye My heart longs for that easy confidence I had
Under the nose that things would never fall apart.
Chin Even though I understand all the umpteen reasons
Collar bone why things didn’t work out, I still wish they had worked out.
Under the arm We just couldn’t change each other.
Top of the head Or accept us just as we were.
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow We really cannot change others. Not forever.
Side of the eye Maybe I expected too much out of them.
Under the eye That they were not capable of, or ready for.
Under the nose I feel inadequate that I couldn’t bring out the best in them.
Chin I feel disappointed for making a wrong choice.
Collar bone It felt so good to think that my search was over.
Under the arm But the truth is, nothing lasts forever.
Top of the head Even with a lot of repairs.
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow And now this broken relationship has become
Side of the eye a club I’m holding over my head.
Under the eye How long will I keep feeling bad?
Under the nose I want to make peace with it, and move on.
Chin It is not so much about coming to terms with it
Collar bone as it is about freeing myself.
Under the arm Free of this longing for what COULD have been.
Top of the head How about I focus on what CAN be?
EFT tapping round 8
Eyebrow I’m understanding that it is okay,
Side of the eye not all relationships are meant to last forever.
Under the eye I choose to make the best of them anyway.
Under the nose I choose to measure my relationships by their quality, not their duration.
Chin Releasing this fear of letting go of people.
Collar bone Releasing this desperate attachment to people I connect with.
Under the arm I choose to keep all the good I receive from them.
Top of the head I’m becoming comfortable with the idea of letting go what no longer serves me.
EFT tapping round 9
Eyebrow Releasing this need to salvage what is not there anymore.
Side of the eye I’m making space for all the wonderful people I can connect with.
Under the eye Releasing this heaviness of grief. Breathing deeply.
Under the nose Releasing this guilt too. Relaxing my shoulders.
Chin I choose to forgive myself for what happened.
Collar bone I choose to forgive others who were involved.
Under the arm I choose to let them be what they want to be,
Top of the head while freeing myself to be what I will be.
EFT tapping round 10
Eyebrow I’m keeping the good memories, and letting all this sadness go.
Side of the eye Releasing this need to arm twist my relationships in the direction I want them to go.
Under the eye I choose to let my relationships flow, easily and comfortably.
Under the nose I’m feeling good about myself.
Chin I’m feeling worthy of valuable relationships.
Collar bone I’m ready with open arms.
Under the arm For new and exciting relationships to come my way.
Top of the head I’m calm and confident and free.
See how you feel after a round of this tapping. You could repeat tapping through it once again if you find any negative charge still remaining.
Tapping through this script may bring up related aspects of the breakup, such as specific incidents leading up to it. With bigger emotions neutralized with this tapping script, you may find it easier to tap on the remaining ones.
Also check out my compilation of EFT tapping videos for a relationship break-up.
If you are feeling angry about the breakup, you may also find this EFT tapping when you are feeling angry useful. Here are some related EFT scripts that you might want to tap through as well: