If you often find yourself tongue tied when you want to speak up for yourself, it can build up anger and resentment towards yourself and others involved in the matter. How about tapping away the inhibitions to speaking up for yourself?
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Full transcript of the tapping script shown in the video:
Even though something holds me back from speaking up for myself, I don’t know how to change that.
Even though oftentimes I don’t speak up for myself, and that makes me feel angry, this anger only makes me feel worse.
Even when I do speak up for myself, I feel guilty for doing so, and afraid of the repercussions. This makes me feel powerless, the opposite of how I would like to feel.
Even though my mind and body don’t support my speaking up for myself, I wish all parts of me would gear up towards reclaiming this power.
Even though I’m afraid people would not like it if I started speaking up for myself, I am tired of giving away my power to others.
Even though I’m afraid of ruining my relationships, I wish I could get my point across safely.
Eyebrow I’m tired of not being able to ask for what I want.
Side of the eye I’m tired of not being able to say no
Under the eye to what I don’t want.
Under the nose I’m tired of letting people
Chin speak to me in a way that upsets me.
Collar bone Even when I do speak up, my voice has this pleading quality,
Under the arm as if I’m begging to be heard. I’m sick of this!
Top of the head And there are times when
Eyebrow I’m not even sure if it is okay to
Side of the eye speak up for myself.
Under the eye For fear of being wrong.
Under the nose For fear of being shot down.
Chin For fear of rubbing people the wrong way.
Collar bone Even when I do speak up for myself,
Under the arm it doesn’t work out in my favor.
Top of the head When I speak up, only the negative gets highlighted.
Eyebrow I get blamed, I feel guilty.
Side of the eye My words have no weight.
Under the eye I’m disappointed with myself,
Under the nose and angry too, for not acting in my best interest.
Chin Even though I know how I
Collar bone SHOULD behave,
Under the arm when the time comes,
Top of the head my body and mind fail me.
Eyebrow My mouth feels dry,
Side of the eye my tongue feels like dead weight.
Under the eye The right words simply don’t come to my mind.
Under the nose Even if they do, they don’t come out of my throat.
Chin I feel nervous, and tongue tied.
Collar bone I cannot articulate when I feel cornered.
Under the arm I mumble, I falter.
Top of the head My throat feels choked.
Eyebrow My voice becomes thin and weepy.
Side of the eye All this makes me feel like a real loser.
Under the eye And others can sense it.
Under the nose All this pent up anger
Chin eventually comes out like a volcano.
Collar bone And I turn out to be the bad person,
Under the arm even if I actually feel like a victim all the time.
Top of the head I’m tired of swinging between the extremes.
Eyebrow I’m tired of habitually deferring to others.
Side of the eye I’m tired of eventually resorting to shouting to be heard.
Under the eye And then there are times when,
Under the nose I don’t even realize that
Chin I need to speak up for myself.
Collar bone Maybe I just don’t have it in me to figure that out.
Under the arm But what if that knowing part of me
Top of the head had only nodded off?
Eyebrow Maybe I don’t speak up because
Side of the eye a part of me learnt early on
Under the eye that it didn’t matter even if I stood up for myself.
Under the nose Others around me would
Chin disregard my wishes anyway.
Collar bone Maybe this part of me learnt early on
Under the arm that speaking up for myself only brought
Top of the head trouble and punishment.
Eyebrow Maybe this part of me was afraid of making
Side of the eye others angry and losing their affection.
Under the eye It was my survival mechanism at that time
Under the nose and it may have worked for me then.
Chin But I’m now smart enough,
Collar bone and responsible enough,
Under the arm and disappointed enough
Top of the head to want to change this behavior.
Eyebrow This part of me was only trying
Side of the eye to protect me all this time.
Under the eye But now I’m letting this part of me know
Under the nose that I’m reclaiming my power and so
Chin it doesn’t need to hold me back.
Collar bone Waking up this assertive part of me from
Under the arm its deep, long forgotten slumber.
Top of the head Nudging it gently to its full power. I need it!
Eyebrow Boy, this is going to make a lot of people unhappy.
Side of the eye Maybe they will try to get even with me.
Under the eye Or they’ll abandon me.
Under the nose I am afraid to fall out of favor with these people.
Chin I’m afraid what repercussions
Collar bone my newly reclaimed assertiveness will bring.
Under the arm But if there are people around me
Top of the head who will accept me only if I were a doormat,
Eyebrow then do I really want their conditional acceptance?
Side of the eye What if this fear was baseless?
Under the eye What if they could be pleasantly surprised
Under the nose to see me standing up for myself, finally?
Chin It’s worth taking a shot.
Collar bone Who will stand by me if I won’t, first?
Under the arm There may be people who will not feel
Top of the head comfortable around the “new” me,
Eyebrow but they’ll come around to it.
Side of the eye Or not, but that’s okay.
Under the eye Maybe in the past I have associated
Under the nose assertiveness with aggression.
Chin By standing up for myself, by speaking up,
Collar bone I’m not condoning aggressiveness,
Under the arm which is a whole different ballgame.
Top of the head What if I could speak my truth
Eyebrow while being comfortable and tactful?
Side of the eye While I now empower myself to speak up,
Under the eye it also doesn’t mean that I misuse this power,
Under the nose to abuse others or be aggressive.
Chin I can also display my assertiveness
Collar bone by keeping quiet when needed
Under the arm and still make myself heard.
Top of the head Speaking up does not mean that I resort
Eyebrow to being hostile or sarcastic.
Side of the eye That also does not mean that I am
Under the eye a mean person for saying “no”.
Under the nose That only means I’m being honest with myself.
Chin While I choose to stand up for myself,
Collar bone I also let others be who they are.
Under the arm If I am giving out wrong signals knowingly
Top of the head or unknowingly, telling others that
Eyebrow I’m willing to be walked all over,
Side of the eye I choose to stop that right now.
Under the eye Starting now, I choose to project
Under the nose a confident body language.
Chin Clearing out this lump in my throat,
Collar bone clearing out this fear in my stomach,
Under the arm that rises all the way up to my throat,
Top of the head Clearing this fear all the way up to my throat.
Eyebrow Removing this invisible barrier
Side of the eye that holds me back from speaking my mind.
Under the eye I’m relaxing my shoulders, and my face.
Under the nose Freeing my tongue to speak my truth.
Chin Remembering that I can be polite
Collar bone without sounding like I’m begging or whining.
Under the arm Clearing this doubt about
Top of the head not deserving to be heard,
Eyebrow from every fiber of my being.
Side of the eye It is safe to say what I want to say.
Under the eye I am becoming more comfortable
Under the nose with the idea of saying it as it is.
Chin From now on, speaking up for myself
Collar bone comes naturally to me.
Under the arm I choose to speak tactfully and fearlessly.
Top of the head And I choose to be calm and confident while doing so.
After this, you may notice yourself becoming more confident and open to expressing your views and needs. You may also notice that you don’t really worry about others’ reactions all that much. If a lot of negativity has accumulated over this issue, tap through the script again with a few different focus incidents where you had to keep yourself from speaking up. With that, all the emotions trapped in such incidents should be released.
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