What will others think of me? Will that person be mad at me because of something I said? All this drama is too much for me …
A highly sensitive disposition can keep you up at night and busy with thoughts like these every waking moment.
A general care for your feelings and what others think of you is not only normal, but a good thing. It enables you to connect with people at a heart-to-heart level and express empathy.
The problem arises when you are “too much” in touch with your emotions.
If you know you are a highly sensitive person, you could jump directly to my EFT tapping script for highly sensitive persons.
The highly sensitive disposition
To be born with a highly emotional disposition can make life harder for some of us. It attracts labels and remarks such as, “You’re so sensitive!”, “Oh my God, now what did I say to upset you?”, “Talking to you is like walking on egg shells!”, “Why can’t you snap out of it?”, and so on.
Such remarks usually come from people who look like they don’t have a care in the world. They handle their feelings so well, they look confident and happy. They don’t understand why it is so hard for some to let go of their emotional baggage.
It doesn’t have to go to this extreme. If you are of a general disposition where others’ opinions matter to you more than you would like, read on.
A highly sensitive person can feel like a victim in an instant. You never know what will tick us off. This sensitivity comes in varying degrees. Some people may be more sensitive in a particular area, such as their looks, job profile, or their financial situation.
Someone of this nature can often overreact to situations, ruining precious relationships in the wake. Even the slightest remark can be taken out of context and be blown up into a big issue. Intense emotions are bubbling just underneath the surface. Again, this can happen in varying degrees.
Simply telling yourself to snap out of an emotional upset is hardly ever enough.
If you are wondering whether you might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), here is a self-test by Dr. Elaine N. Aron, a celebrated psychotherapist and expert in the area of high sensitivity.
The Highly Sensitive Person self-test
The price of high sensitivity
One major and commonly experienced flip side of a sensitive bent is overwhelm. Say you visited a mall, followed by a trip to a crowded restaurant, only to come home to kids whose screams can be measured in a few hundred decibels. This is a recipe for overwhelm.
As a sensitive person, you’re constantly absorbing too many emotions, thoughts and ideas that are floating in the air. Really, it is that simple to start feeling overwhelmed. You don’t even have to do anything. You only have to be there among too many people sending out too many thoughts.
This description is not to belittle the gift that is high sensitivity. A highly sensitive nature comes with many perks – empathy, intuition, creativity, deep thinking, keen observation skills and the ability to feel passion like there is no tomorrow.
But the price of high sensitivity is high sensitivity.
My life as a Highly Sensitive Person
If you think how difficult it must be to live with a person like this, think about how difficult it can be to be a person like this. I know that well, because I am one. Or at least used to be.
Anything and everything said to me seemed to affect me personally. A trip to the mall could drain me out. The stress of a high-pressure job with deadlines lurking at every bend could drive me to the wall. It was as if I was absorbing every stressful thought in the air and burning out in the process.
This wasn’t helped by some of the life experiences that were thrown my way as a child. My inability to cope with overwhelming emotions was further weakened by those experiences.
What I noticed was, pretty much any emotional upset, big or small, was enough to overwhelm me, so the response was way out of proportion given any situation.
A huge turnaround came when I stumbled across an energy psychology method we all know as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or simply tapping. Energy psychology is based on the premise that our whole body is a lattice-work of energies. And that allowing a free flow of energy throughout the body can have positive effects on our physical, emotional and mental well-being.
With the use of EFT tapping, I started to understand how I could train my highly sensitive brain to create boundaries and protect myself from emotional emission of others.
My confidence soared. I started to relate better to my surroundings. My relationships became deeper. My mind opened up to a million possibilities that were simply hidden under those overflowing emotions.
I cannot emphasize enough how greatly incorporating a little tapping into my daily routine has helped my super sensitive disposition.
EFT tapping for your high sensitivity
When we understand how much our physiology affects our psychology, we start to feel more compassionate about our sensitive nature.
Whether you are feeling overwhelmed, or stressed out, EFT has an almost instant calming effect. Additionally, it builds immunity to stress over time, so that a sensitive person no longer feels drained from every little incident. This is not to suggest that you become emotionally callous or start ignoring your feelings or of others because of using these techniques.
Your creativity benefits greatly too. When the mind is no longer tied up in processing emotional overload, it becomes free to envision creative ideas, reach out to people, and make a unique mark in the world.
Tapping can help you tap into your massive reserve of amazing ideas, skills, talents and passion that lie underneath your overwhelm.
The way for a highly sensitive person to experience life fully is not by shutting out all emotion, but by deeply and completely loving and accepting yourself. Tapping helps you do just that.
Check out my full-length EFT tapping script for highly sensitive persons. This tapping script will help you feel better anytime you feel bogged down or overwhelmed being a highly sensitive person.Are you a highly sensitive person or a parent of a highly sensitive child? Please share in the comments.