“It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.” ~ Lena Horne
In the world we live in today, asking for help or even a small favour is often viewed as a sign of weakness. This causes so many of us to struggle and suffer silently even when obvious sources of help are around.
At times, asking for help creates a certain awkwardness that turns into a game of one-upmanship and eventually a power struggle.
What if we could connect to people in ways that asking for help neither creates shame nor receiving it a power imbalance? How about we offer help ourselves to those in need so we become more and more comfortable with the idea of giving and receiving?
Here’s an EFT tapping script that will help you relax around the idea of asking for help when you need it. It will also calm the inhibitions and blocks that arise when we consider approaching someone asking for a favour.
Tap along to this script if you routinely hesitate asking for help or if you are considering approaching someone with your problems but holding yourself back. It is also a useful one if you generally feel that your interactions with people are often the kind where you feel like the weaker one.
EFT tapping set up
Even though I feel held back and ashamed asking someone for a favour, what if I could see the bigger picture and the purpose timely help would serve to make things better?
Even though this whole process of asking for a favour turns into a weird power struggle, I am open to understanding how to balance this equation of give and take.
Even though I feel weak and needy asking for help even when I really need it, it is true that by holding myself back this way, I’m only doing myself a disservice. I’m open to remembering that by receiving help when I need it, I can emerge stronger and be of help to others in turn.
Even though I just don’t like the weird equation I share with the person from whom I ask for help, what if I could learn to see the same interactions with fresh eyes and a new outlook?
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow I feel afraid asking for favours from others.
Side of the eye Even when I genuinely need help,
Under the eye I often hesitate to ask for it.
Under the nose I feel ashamed asking for help.
Chin It makes me feel needy and inferior.
Collar bone I don’t want to burden others.
Under arm And what if they refuse?
Top of the head There will be awkwardness from then on.
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow If they agree, there will be a burden
Side of the eye I will have to carry on my shoulders.
Under the eye Others helping me puts me in a weaker
Under the nose position compared to them.
Chin I don’t like giving away my power.
Collar bone I don’t like to push people into doing things for me.
Under arm They may secretly loathe helping me.
Top of the head I don’t want to lose people’s affection and respect.
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow It hurts when someone rejects my plea of help.
Side of the eye Even worse, when they help and then
Under the eye try to take advantage of it.
Under the nose I don’t like being indebted to people.
Chin What if instead of a burden to return the favour,
Collar bone I return gratitude and blessings?
Under arm And in the future, do the best I can to help them in turn?
Top of the head But what if gratitude isn’t enough?
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow What if they try to overpower me from then on?
Side of the eye What if I could remember that by accepting help
Under the eye I am not trading away my identity and self-respect?
Under the nose What if I could remember that it is totally in my hands
Chin how or if to return a favour?
Collar bone Sometimes others are truly in a position
Under arm of greater power than I am.
Top of the head I feel jealous that they are the stronger one.
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow And that makes me not want to ask for help.
Side of the eye What if I could keep my ego aside at such times?
Under the eye What if I could look at the big picture at such times?
Under the nose And see how help from others will make everything better?
Chin But I don’t like to become dependent on others.
Collar bone But it is also true that I’m never truly self-dependent.
Under arm No man is an island.
Top of the head Everyone needs help at some point.
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow And I’m no exception.
Side of the eye What if I let my good sense guide me
Under the eye about what I can handle myself and what I need help with?
Under the nose Instead of brushing away all options for help,
Chin what if I decide on a case by case basis?
Collar bone But I’m afraid of rejection.
Under arm By asking someone and necessarily expecting them to agree,
Top of the head where am I really asking? I’m controlling.
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow When I ask for help, what if I could remember
Side of the eye that others have a say in what they agree to do.
Under the eye What if I could remember next time
Under the nose that people have their own problems too,
Chin and often good reasons for turning down a plea.
Collar bone As I open up to ask for help from others,
Under arm I also open my heart to helping others in need.
Top of the head I am understanding better and better
EFT tapping round 8
Eyebrow that it is not about keeping scores at all.
Side of the eye As I help others, and receive help myself I become
Under the eye a greater and greater part of the tapestry that is this Universe.
Under the nose I become not only a receiver, but a contributor.
Chin I feel great joy in helping others selflessly.
Collar bone And I express my gratitude freely.
Under arm I feel comfortable taking a leap of faith.
Top of the head I feel calm and confident asking for help.
favour = favor (American)