Life is a party. But it can be hard to enjoy if you feel uncomfortable being at a party.
It is not uncommon to feel awkward at social gatherings such as parties, meetings and other social events.
A lot of times it is brushed off as shyness. But for the person going through the discomfort of a social setting, it can be downright torture.
No one needs to tell you if you are not feeling your best at a social event. You know it. And possibly others can sense it as well that you are not very comfortable.
This is one of the ways in which social anxiety manifests itself.
Even if you take pride in calling yourself a nerd who is fashionably uncomfortable in social settings, some tapping on this issue can help you feel wonderfully at ease the next time you are at a party or an office meeting.
Read through the script below and see if it resonates with you. If you experience at least some of the symptoms covered in the script, you stand to gain from tapping through it.
One way to use this script is to look back at a social event you attended, and tune into the uncomfortable feelings while tapping along to this script.
Another way to use this script would be a few days before an upcoming event. Tap on it for a few days leading up to a party, meeting or any other social event you might be planning to attend.
EFT tapping set up
Even though I am distinctly uncomfortable at parties and social gatherings, I know that I’m not the only person in the Universe with this ‘problem’. I am fine just as I am.
Even though I feel inferior comparing myself to others in social situations, these comparisons only make the whole experience worse for me. I am opening up to the idea that I do not need to be the most perfect human being in order to feel accepted in a group. I am okay.
Even though I am afraid that I will act foolishly and embarrass myself in a social setting, I choose to consciously relax so that I can focus on my actions and responses better. And even if I mess up, I choose to accept myself anyway. If I won’t accept myself, who will?
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow I just don’t feel comfortable at social events.
Side of the eye God forbid I need to attend a party.
Under the eye What is meant to be a celebration
Under the nose becomes a source of social torture for me.
Chin I don’t like being part of a crowd.
Collar bone I can’t connect to a group of people as a whole.
Under the arm I’m more comfortable building a rapport one-on-one.
Top of the head I even dislike the time leading up to such an occasion.
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow And the winding down after the party is over.
Side of the eye It is a strain on my nerves and my sensitive disposition.
Under the eye I just want to rush back to my cozy corner and curl up
Under the nose with a good book and a glass of wine.
Chin I am just not the effervescent guest who gathers a crowd
Collar bone around them by being fun and confident.
Under the arm Sometimes I’m just grinning like a fool,
Top of the head even when someone says something that hurts.
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow I just don’t have the talent for intelligent repartee.
Side of the eye I feel obligated to come across as the perfect guest
Under the eye with cheers and smiles and all the right things to say.
Under the nose I am afraid I’ll embarrass myself with my clumsy table manners.
Chin What if I let out a stupid, off-handed remark?
Collar bone And become a laughing stock?
Under the arm Worse, be sniggered about behind my back?
Top of the head Looking at all the people, I feel like I’ve been living under a rock.
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow I hate it on such occasions when some people form a group,
Side of the eye and talk animatedly, appearing thick as thieves
Under the eye and I am left idly hanging around the periphery.
Under the nose I hate having to keep a smile and show like I care.
Chin And after it is all over, conversations and scenes
Collar bone run in my mind for days, replaying everything.
Under the arm Like being there once wasn’t enough.
Top of the head I feel the pressure to be a smooth talker, smart and posh.
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow As soon as I reach the venue, my confidence dips,
Side of the eye my shoulders drop and my mouth goes dry.
Under the eye My face falls, my voice becomes weepy.
Under the nose And that is before I have uttered a word.
Chin People look so happy and at ease being there.
Collar bone I become so nervous I don’t know what to do with my hands.
Under the arm My logic goes out the window and I can’t remember names.
Top of the head Even when no one might be judging me, I can’t stop beating myself up.
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow My eyes are darting constantly comparing my dressing,
Side of the eye my looks, my money with those of others.
Under the eye Even when I’m making small talk, in the back of my mind I’m afraid
Under the nose what the other person might be thinking of me.
Chin For the life of me, I can’t be the life of a party.
Collar bone Although I sometimes wonder how it would be.
Under the arm If I were very comfortable being among people.
Top of the head If I were relaxed and being my true self.
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow If my confidence shone though my eyes.
Side of the eye And it didn’t matter what others thought of me.
Under the eye If I could just relish the occasion for what it was.
Under the nose That way I would certainly enjoy the company of people.
Chin Yes, there will always be people who thrive
Collar bone on finding faults and they will target me as well.
Under the arm There will always be someone who is better off than I am.
Top of the head And there will be someone smarter, and better looking.
EFT tapping round 8
Eyebrow Who knows, they might have their own insecurities.
Side of the eye I choose to measure myself by reasonable standards.
Under the eye While remembering that others around me
Under the nose are not Gods and Goddesses swooping down from the heavens.
Chin I choose to put an end to comparisons too.
Collar bone From now on, every time I catch myself comparing,
Under the arm I will consciously bring my attention back to me.
Top of the head Every time I catch myself shrinking from inferiority,
EFT tapping round 9
Eyebrow I choose to consciously square my shoulders and breathe deeply.
Side of the eye By allowing myself to be relaxed, I am being authentic.
Under the eye And authenticity is highly valued in today’s society
Under the nose full of people trying to be someone else.
Chin I choose to view social functions not as a battleground,
Collar bone but as a playground where I can be myself and
Under the arm connect with others authentically and confidently.
Top of the head And if I catch myself sinking into despair,
EFT tapping round 10
Eyebrow I choose to consciously remind myself that I am okay.
Side of the eye And if it is all too much, I free myself to walk out gracefully
Under the eye without trying to morph myself into something I’m not.
Under the nose I am free to be less than perfect.
Chin I am free to not be the smartest person in the room.
Collar bone I am free to not be the richest person in the room.
Under the arm I am free to walk out if I want to.
Top of the head And I am free to enjoy the party in my own way.