Starting this week, I'm on a mission to forgive myself for any and every folly I have ever committed. Sounds like a tall order, isn't it? I've realized that any path to attaining a strong self-esteem has to go via self-acceptance and forgiveness. Forgiveness to self and forgiveness to others. So today I'm bringing you my first post in the Forgiveness Series.
There is no point telling yourself that you're loved and valued if there's shame and guilt hidden in the dark corners of your psyche. So if you ever did anything that you regret and feel ashamed of, irrespective of how much you were at fault, tapping away that guilt will help you in more than one way. Not only is shame a useless emotion, it constantly works to belittle us, nibbling away at our self-esteem. So let's tap it away now!
EFT tapping set up
Even though I feel so ashamed of what I did, I am starting to wonder how long I need to keep carrying this burden on my shoulders in order to get anything out of it.
Even though I really shouldn't have done what I did, and it sure would have kept my life simpler and guilt free, what if I could forgive myself and shut the case, and make my life simpler and guilt free now?
Even though part of me feels this shame is necessary to prevent me from making such mistakes in the future, I'm so ready to let go of this feeling, and set myself free.
EFT tapping round 1
Eyebrow I feel so ashamed.
Side of the eye I'm so angry with myself.
Under the eye For doing what I did.
Under the nose What was going on in my head at that time?
Chin Wasn't I thinking clearly?
Collar bone I feel guilty just thinking about it.
Under the arm I feel so ashamed, I hate myself.
Top of the head What a fool I made of myself!
EFT tapping round 2
Eyebrow Did I really have to go out
Side of the eye and take that action?
Under the eye I feel too ashamed to even tap on this issue.
Under the nose These feelings of shame
Chin make me feel as small as a worm.
Collar bone That incident sure left me
Under the arm with lessons to learn.
Top of the head So I want to keep feeling ashamed
EFT tapping round 3
Eyebrow so that I'll remember not to do
Side of the eye something so despicable ever again.
Under the eye What if I could keep the lessons,
Under the nose and let the shame go?
Chin What if I could begin to see the
Collar bone other side of the story?
Under the arm What if I could begin to understand
Top of the head my motivations behind what I did?
EFT tapping round 4
Eyebrow Maybe I felt the need to take certain
Side of the eye actions because I felt compelled to.
Under the eye Maybe that was the best I could do
Under the nose at the time in order to do justice to
Chin what was going on around me.
Collar bone This is not to brush things under the carpet
Under the arm or downplay what I did,
Top of the head but part of me is now questioning
EFT tapping round 5
Eyebrow till what date, day and time
Side of the eye will I keep shaming myself
Under the eye for what happened?
Under the nose Looking back, it is easy to point a finger
Chin and say, hey, shame on me!
Collar bone Can I please cut myself some slack here?
Under the arm I have already punished myself
Top of the head enough all this time,
EFT tapping round 6
Eyebrow carrying the burden of guilt and shame.
Side of the eye Maybe I'm being too hard on myself.
Under the eye Maybe I would have found it easier
Under the nose to forgive and forget if it was
Chin someone else who did something like this.
Collar bone So why is it so hard to forgive myself?
Under the arm Maybe this is what I learned early on.
Top of the head That the only way to evolve
EFT tapping round 7
Eyebrow into a good human being was to keep
Side of the eye shaming myself about my wrongs
Under the eye so that I would keep on the right path,
Under the nose even if out of fear of shame.
Chin I shouldn't have to shame myself
Collar bone into doing the right thing!
Under the arm I am a good person
Top of the head even with all my flaws and shortcomings.
EFT tapping round 8
Eyebrow And I know that I'm trying to do
Side of the eye the best I can manage.
Under the eye Even if it feels like I'm falling way short
Under the nose of doing THE right thing.
Chin This self-beating isn't taking me anywhere.
Collar bone What if I could say,
Under the arm "I'm sorry for what I did."
Top of the head "Please forgive me."?
EFT tapping round 9
Eyebrow I know I'm truly sorry.
Side of the eye I accept my apology.
Under the eye I choose to forgive myself unconditionally.
Under the nose I choose to keep the lessons,
Chin and let this pain of shame go, right now.
Collar bone I choose to breathe easy, it's okay.
Under the arm It feels good to be free, at last.
Top of the head I'm now calm and confident.
Repeat tapping through the script if you feel there is still some emotional charge around the issue. Also tap on any specific memories that come up during tapping. Here's a related tap-along EFT script to help you get over the feelings of regret over how you behaved on a certain occasion.
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